Fine The Time...

Dear Daughter


Too often in our lives we miss the little things because we are too busy with the everyday. Next thing we know, opportunity has passed us by, and we must wait for the next one. When I became your mother I realized many things about myself. About love. About fear. About hope. About life. I don't presume to know everything, as you teach me something new everyday. But what I do know, good and bad, is yours to have...all you need to do is ask.


I've learned that life....Life, in the grand scheme of things is so short, and so precious. To even regret one moment in life is very difficult. I, like most have said at one time; "I wish I had said this" or "I wish I had done that". Let me be clear. I do not regret one moment of my life so far. Having the know how now, I might have changed some decisions, made different choices. But how can I regret something that a pebble skip away, could have brought me you.


It's hard, after the fact to think to myself...."Jeeze, I wish I....." All because I was on a schedule, or late, or on my way, or didn't have the time. Sometimes we forget to find the time to step back and take it all in.


So...all this boils down to is simply this....I want you to do something for me, a favor if you will. I want you to take five minutes, at least, everyday to find the time to .....just BE. Morning, noon or night....stop and, for a lack of a better phrase, "Stop and smell the bloody roses!"


Find the time skip those pebbles. To wiggle your toes in the grass. Find the time to enjoy that first sip of coffee in the morning.(and as I was recently reminded, make sure it's the GOOD stuff. Life's to short to scrimp by on just decent coffee)  Find the time to read a really good smutty novel just for the hell of it, and flip through a trashy tabloid to read about aliens. I want you to yes, stop and smell the flowers.Maybe even grow some. Take the time to watch a sunset. I don't mean sit there for hours by yourself, but great company and, in my case, a cheap glass of wine, are great ways to wind down at the end of the day. Find the time to hold hands. Child, teen, adult or seasoned; go for a walk, holding the hand of one you love. Take a moment for hugs, kisses and I love yous. You don't want to wish you had later, do it! Find the the for bubble baths and candles. For laughing so hard you cry, and for each and every person you deem important. A five minute phone call just to say "where ye at?" can go such a long way. Find the time to have fun. To make silly faces from across the room and tell a dirty joke at a semi-inappropriate place or time.


I'm not trying to tell you what to do with your live Sweetheart. I want you to be who you want to be and do what you want to do. If you tell me you want to join the circus, I will be first in line for cotton candy. What I'm  asking from you....What I'm wanting for you, is to just live your life to the fullest. I want you to look back on your life when your older and remember all the amazing things you did or said. I also want you to look back and remember the little things. The small things you took the time to enjoy just because. I want you to be able to say to your little girl...."When I was younger, your Nanny and Poppy and I....." Find the time to run through some leaves, catch snowflakes on your tongue and dance in the rain. Find the Time.


These last few are really important. So are the others, but really really remember these. Find the time to be Grateful. For all you had, have and will have. Find the time the to tell the ones you care about the why's and what-for's. Take the time to just breath when you wake up, and be thankful you are alive. Most importantly. Find the time to call your Mama. Cause I'll be there, morning, noon or night. Always.


So, my little lovey, heed  my advice. Find the time for the little things.
They take part in shaping you into the wonderful girl I know you'll be.


I love you Sweet Baby Girl
Always & Forever
Mama